Redefining Effort and Care We hear it all the time: Love is a verb. Love takes work. And while that can be true, somewhere along the way, love started to sound like labor. Like effort without rest. Like endurance without repair. Like proving, again and again, that you’re worthy of staying. When Love Becomes Work I’ve known love that felt like a checklist. Show up. Hold it together. Anticipate needs. Smooth edges. Carry more than my share. I called it devotion. I called it

Claiming What Was Always Mine For a long time, I treated creativity like something I had to earn. Something that required approval. More time. More confidence. More certainty. I waited for the right conditions. The right season. The moment someone else would say, yes, now it makes sense. That moment never came. What Waiting Cost Me Waiting dulled my voice. It taught me to doubt what wanted to come through me. It made creativity feel optional — a luxury instead of a lifeline

No Rush, No Apologies There’s an unspoken clock we’re all supposed to follow. Milestones. Benchmarks. Invisible deadlines for who we should be by now. For a long time, I tried to keep up. I measured my healing against other people’s progress. My growth against someone else’s timeline. It never felt right. The Cost of Rushing Rushing asks us to skip over ourselves. To move forward before we’ve fully arrived where we are. I’ve learned that rebuilding — whether it’s a life, a

Vision Without the Weight January arrives loud. Full of declarations. Resolutions stacked like promises we’re supposed to keep. Everywhere I look, there’s urgency to become someone new. To  optimize. To  fix. To  decide who I’ll be for the rest of the year before I’ve even finished exhaling from the last one. This year, I’m choosing something quieter. When Goals Feel Like Pressure Goals used to feel motivating. Now  they often feel like weight. A list of expectations I carry

Rebirth Without the Fireworks Rebirth rarely looks the way we imagine. It isn’t loud or cinematic. More often, it comes slowly — through small choices, subtle shifts, the accumulation of tiny honesties. The First Sparks of Change My rebirth this year didn’t begin with a single event. It began with quiet realizations: “I can’t keep living like this.” “I deserve softness, too.” “I’m allowed to change my mind.” “I’m allowed to want more peace than chaos.” These truths arrived ge

A Reflection Strength That Doesn’t Shout If I had to name this past year, I’d call it my year of quiet power . Not power in the loud, commanding sense. But the quiet kind — the strength that builds slowly, privately, invisibly. The Small, Sacred Acts of Inner Strength This year didn’t make me louder. It made me truer. I learned that power lives in the smallest, most unglamorous acts: telling the truth when your voice shakes, resting when you feel guilty, walking away from cy

A Soft December Release Some years end with fireworks. Some end with a sprint. This one, for me, ends with a gentle exhale — a loosening of the grip I didn’t know I had. December always asks two questions: What will you carry forward? and What can’t come with you anymore? Letting Go Without the Drama I used to believe letting go required some dramatic gesture — a ceremonial goodbye, a final confrontation, a moment that neatly folded the past into something meaningful. But thi

The Ones Who Stayed Close Not every season is carried by big victories or grand support. Some seasons are survived because someone quiet stayed near. A presence. A heartbeat. A steady, wordless kind of love. For me, that presence often looks like four soft paws and a warm body curled against the curve of my leg on nights when the world felt too loud. The Comfort of Being Seen There is a kind of companionship that doesn’t need language. No advice. No fixing. No asking you to b

When Gratitude Meets Exhaustion This season asks for gratitude. Everywhere I look— reminders to give thanks, to count blessings, to hold joy close. And I am thankful. For family. For home. For the small, quiet things that hold me steady. But I’m also tired. Bone-deep tired. The kind that seeps into the edges of everything. And sometimes, that’s hard to admit in a season that insists I be grateful without question. The Weight Beneath Gratitude There’s an unspoken rule— that gr

When Gratitude Holds Grief Lately, I’ve been feeling both full and hollow. So grateful it aches. So tired it hurts. Motherhood has remade me in ways I never expected. It has softened me, stretched me, and shown me what love looks like in its rawest form. But it has also taken things from me— quiet mornings, slow hours, the unbroken thought of simply being me. And some days, when the house is finally still, I find myself missing her— the woman I was before all of this. Not

When the Kitchen Feels Heavy For a long time, cooking felt like another weight to carry. Another thing on the endless list. Something to check off before moving on to the next task. What will everyone eat? Do we have enough groceries? Why does it always fall to me? I cooked to get it done. Not to enjoy it. Not to nourish. Not to love. And my body felt it— the tension in my shoulders, the rush in my breath, the quiet resentment simmering under the surface. Cooking from Obligat

Rewriting the Story of Laziness For so long, I believed the lie. That my slowness meant weakness. That my need for rest meant failure. That the undone dishes or unfinished tasks proved I just wasn’t disciplined enough. I wore the word lazy  like a hidden label. Ashamed of it. Afraid of it. Convinced it was true. But it wasn’t. Not Lazy—Just Carrying Too Much The day I finally stopped and looked closer, I saw it clearly: I wasn’t resisting because I didn’t care. I was resistin

Listening to the Messages Beneath the Burnout For a long time, I treated exhaustion like an inconvenience. Something to be managed. Pushed through. Covered with caffeine or swallowed with guilt. I thought being tired meant I wasn’t strong enough, organized enough, disciplined enough. That if I just got better at managing my time or emotions, the heaviness would lift. But eventually, the fatigue became too loud to ignore. It settled into my skin. Not just physical tiredness—b

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